So many times, people call you selfish or greedy when you try to look out for yourself. However, the first step to loving yourself is finally learning to think about yourself and your needs above all others. Anyone who is above the age of eighteen can look out for themselves. Everybody wants something from you and before you know it, you are the one who is drained and depressed. Stop giving them the power to hurt you, by making them take responsibility for their own self.
Take time to make yourself happy, by choosing to do what you want to do like: buy a new outfit, go on an outing, or indulge yourself by learning a fun new dance. I mean come on, if they are not children, then why should you give them the power to take away your happiness. Make time to caress your mind and your soul, as well as tickle your funny bone every time you get a chance. You’re not greedy; instead you are setting boundaries and letting people know exactly what you will take from them.
Yeah, you may be the bad guy for the day or week, but you will find a sense of peace once people know that they can no longer use you anymore. Honestly, every time you stand up to a person, you actually love yourself more with each line you draw in the sand. So, lift your voice and say, “NO” as many times as you have to, in order to gain a life that has peace and solitude from the craziness. Learn to love yourself, because no one will ever love you, if you don’t first find reasons to love yourself.
©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman
PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience.